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Negotiation: prepare like a detective, listen like one too
Owners negotiate all the time: prices with clients, terms with vendors, leases, pay, partnerships. Most of the result is decided before the conversation starts, by how well you prepared. That's a skill anyone can build, and it starts here.
Know your walk-away before you sit down
Roger Fisher and William Ury's Getting to Yes introduced the idea of your BATNA: your best alternative to a negotiated agreement. In plain terms, what will you do if this deal doesn't happen? Your walk-away point comes from that answer. The stronger your alternative, the more confidently you can negotiate. If you don't know it, you'll accept a bad deal because you're afraid of no deal.
Interests, not positions
The same book separates positions (what someone says they want) from interests (why they want it). A client who demands a lower price might really be worried about cash flow this quarter. Payment terms could solve that without cutting your price. Ask why until you find the interest.
Listen to understand the other side
Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator, argues in Never Split the Difference that people agree more readily when they feel understood. Two of his techniques are simple to use:
- Label what you hear: "It sounds like timing is the real concern." It shows you're listening and invites them to say more.
- Ask "how" and "what" questions: "How would that work on your side?" "What would make this work for you?" They get the other person solving the problem with you.
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Negotiation prep sheet
Fill it in before any negotiation that matters. Most of the value is in being forced to answer the questions.
During the conversation
- Let them talk first and longest. Every minute they talk, you learn something.
- Trade, don't give. If you give something, ask for something back: a longer commitment, faster payment, a referral.
- Silence is fine. After you state your price, stop talking.
- Don't negotiate against yourself. If they say "that's too high," ask what they had in mind before lowering anything.
- Put the agreement in writing the same day, in a short follow-up email.
Every negotiation is a small case file
Investigate the other side before you meet. What pressures are they under? What happens to them if there's no deal? That's your real leverage.
Play out their likely moves and your responses in advance. Surprises are where people give away too much.
Picture advising a friend in your exact situation. You'd tell them to walk away from a bad deal much faster than you'd tell yourself.
Run any concession through the Dollar Test. A 10% discount on a client with a 20% margin cuts their profit in half.
Go deeperCase file, step-by-step how-to, common mistakes and questions to work through
Case file: The supplier price increase
A fictional example
Lin owns a small restaurant group with two locations. Her main produce supplier sent a letter: prices up 12% next month. Produce is about $9,000 a month across both restaurants, so the increase would cost about $1,080 a month, or nearly $13,000 a year.
Her first instinct was to accept it or angrily threaten to leave. Instead, she prepared like a detective.
First, she worked out her walk-away option. She got quotes from two other suppliers. One was about 5% above her current price, with similar quality but less flexible delivery times. That was her best alternative: if talks failed, she could switch and pay about 5% more instead of 12%.
Next, she thought about what the supplier wanted. She'd been a customer for six years, always paid on time, and ordered on a predictable schedule. Those things have value to a supplier.
In the meeting, she was calm and specific: "I understand your costs have gone up. I've been with you six years and I pay on time, every time. I've received another quote that's well below 12%. I'd rather stay with you. What can we do?"
They settled on a 6% increase, with a 12-month price lock and a 2% discount for paying within 10 days. With the early-payment discount, her real increase was about 4%, less than her backup option. The relationship stayed strong.
How to prepare for any negotiation, step by step
- Know your walk-away option: what you'll do if you don't reach a deal. Make it as strong as you can before you talk.
- Set your goal and your limit: the outcome you're aiming for, and the point where you'd walk away.
- Think in the third person about the other side: what do they need, fear and value?
- List things you could trade besides price: timing, length of contract, payment terms, volume, referrals.
- Open with facts and respect, then ask questions and listen more than you talk.
- Trade, don't give. When you give something, ask for something back.
- Write down what you agreed and send it the same day.
"I understand your costs have changed. I value working with you, and I'd like to keep doing it. I have other options at a lower price, so help me make this work. What flexibility do you have on the price, the terms or a longer commitment?"
"I can do that if you can do this. If I commit to a 12-month contract, can you hold the price for the whole year?"
Common mistakes and how to fix them
| Mistake | Fix |
|---|---|
| Walking in without a backup option | Get real alternatives before you negotiate. |
| Only talking about price | List every term you could trade: timing, length, payment, volume. |
| Giving something away without getting anything back | Trade. "If I do this, can you do that?" |
| Bluffing about a walk-away you won't use | Only mention alternatives you'd actually take. |
Questions to work through
- Which contract or supplier deal is coming up next? What's your walk-away option today?
- What does the other side value that might cost you little?
- What's your goal, and what's your limit?
- When did you last give something away in a negotiation without getting anything back?
- Who in your business negotiates with suppliers or clients? Have they been trained?